Chose type and color of candle appropriate for ritual.
Cleanse the candle prior energies: you may use water, salt, pure
soap, or baby oil
(all previously blessed and consecrated).
Bless and consecrate oil to be used, appropriate to ritual.
State and engrave (if you wish) what the candle is to represent.
Anoint the candle with oil and focus on desire (purpose of ritual).
For ritual of achievement: anoint oil from the top of the candle to
the middle in a
downward motion, then from the bottom of the candle to the middle in
an upward motion.
For ritual of banishment: anoint oil from the middle of the candle to
the top in an
bottom of the candle in a downward motion.
Bless and consecrate the candle.
Meditate on desired outcome.
Some do not use matches to light candles, the sulfur is considered
unclean. If you feel this,
use an incense starter or stick to light your candles.
To extinguish a candle, snuff it out or wave your hand over it hard
enough to make a breeze to put it out.
Do not blow or pinch it out.
Blowing a candle out blows desires away, and pinching a flame pinches