The Four Astrological Elements in Relationships part 3
The Four Astrological Elements in Relationships part 3
The Air Element:
The air individual moves easily in the world of theories, thoughts, and
abstractions. He possesses a quick grasp and nimble verbal ability to
express himself. His need for contact and exchange drives him from one place
to the next, but the desire for freedom and independence prevents him from
spending much time anywhere. So the air individual approaches other people
in an open and friendly way but usually makes an impression that is somewhat
distanced and cool in the process. His train of thought frequently moves in
leaps and bounds, primarily on the surface of things. These people are
brilliant, informative, create ideas, impart knowledge, make connections,
think in relative terms and question things, but usually manage to avoid
commitment and depth, as well as emotional involvement. This light, lively,
curious mood frequently leads to impatience, nervousness, and fragmentation.
Their inexhaustible interest (Latin = being in between) in everyone and
everything prevents them from taking a clear position and makes them
lightweights without a homeland. The future is the favorite playing field
for their thoughts since this is where they can be devised and invented.
Things that are new keep all the possibilities open and leave leeway for
experiments and utopias.
Although the air individual constantly strives for clarity and objectivity,
he may sometimes get lost in the elevated labyrinths of his own mental
world. There he is like the comical professor who experiments in his
ivory-tower laboratory with high-flown theories that no one would know how
to use, even if they ever did prove to be more than a flop.
Air and the other signs
Air often has a difficult time with earth in the truest sense of the word.
Earth's unwavering sense of reality lets some of those lovely castles in the
air smash to pieces on hard ground. On the other hand, however, this
combination is valuable because airy ideas only become useful in the
practical sense when they interact with earth.
The water signs are usually a closed book for the air individual as well.
The world of feelings is too vague for him, he cannot comprehend it; it's
not logical, at best psychological - and he can only smile about that. Yet,
the water signs in particular are capable of breathing life into his
abstract ideas and making them more human.
The Water Element:
The Emotional Person
The water individual intuitively attunes herself to her surrounding world.
Her antennae are permanently set on reception, which gives her an excellent
sense of empathy, on the one hand, but also makes it considerably more
difficult for her to draw the line against outside influences. Water people
take in a great deal and in this process let themselves be influenced by
energies and forces that aren't even meant for them. Their sensitivity lets
them always know what the other person expects from them. As a result of
their great willingness to react to other people's wishes, these are the
people with a thousand faces who are capable of appearing in whatever way
the person with whom they are dealing at the moment wishes them to be.
In accordance with this, water people have difficulties in developing a
feeling for their own identity and their own boundaries. Despite all this,
it would still be wrong to underestimate their instinctive urge toward goals
because nothing can ultimately stop water from following its true destiny,
even if it has to make detours that appear very curious in the eyes of the
other elements. A willingness to help, sympathy, sureness of instinct,
empathy, and often a good deal of intuitive ability are the strengths of
water, which is why these people frequently dedicate themselves to
Although the water individual can tell beautiful stories, she has
difficulties in expressing herself in formal terms and explaining something
factually, since the world of sober rationality is not hers. She is much
more at home in the rich world of images, of the imagination, and the
She is the born soul-doctor who can listen to others, be truly sympathetic,
and show deep understanding. And she is naturally also the teller of fairy
tales, the poet, the artist, or the magician.
Her sensitivity lets her be less daring than the other elements and
sometimes even less able to cope with life. When the demands of the outer
world become too hard, so that she no longer feels capable of coping, she
often retreats into her own inner life or into a fantasy world, and hopes to
somehow wrangle through on the outside. In extreme cases, this leads to
escapism, stubborn denial of reality, a leap into the irrational, or flight
into intoxication. Then the past, with its images, has a firm hold on her
and her glance tends to wander more backward than forward.
Her soul gets caught up in memories time and again, revealing old, familiar
things in intensive dreams even years after everything has long been over.
Like no other element, water draws into the depths and only becomes calm
when it has landed at the bottom. Water does not move on its own power. To
do this, water needs impulses from the outside or, even better, a slant that
gives it a direction, as well as a setting that provides it with support.
Water and the other signs
The water person values the proximity of earth individuals, who give her
structure and security. However, this applies only as long as they don't
start to dry out her water by, for example, trying to suppress the inner
correlation that she senses with their unimaginative factual thinking.
From the deep water perspective, air tends to be a superficial element. When
air approaches are too cold and hostile, water shuts itself off by forming a
sheet of ice and thereby preventing the coldly analytical intellect from
looking into the depths of her soul. But where these two elements connect
well, we can find artists who know how to express the images of the soul in
words or through music, as well as the true spiritual helpers and guides.
Water flees from the hot fire signs. The combination steams. Water quickly
feels herself to be overpowered or easily has her feelings hurt by the
heated directness. On the other hand, the momentum of a fire person - his
optimism and joy in life - can sometimes rouse the water type out of her apathy.